Sex and pregnancy: a bloke's guide
Author: Phil
What can you do? Well, pretty much everything
you did before she got pregnant. The only difference being
that some positions will be difficult (or impossible!) as
her bump gets bigger. Be careful with her breasts –
they can get very tender, and she won’t thank you for
handling them roughly. Cramp can be a problem, particularly
later in the pregnancy – so don’t get huffy if
she throws you off half way through a steamy session and grabs
her calf or thigh in agony! Big plusses are that she won’t
being having a period for nine months, and of course she can’t
get pregnant – so sex can be on the menu all the time
if she wants it, and you don’t need to take any precautions!
Won’t having sex harm the baby? Absolutely
not! Think about it…the baby is floating inside a cushion
of liquid – it acts like a shock absorber.
What’s a ‘trimester’?
Pregnancy lasts (nominally) nine months. A trimester is one
third of that period – first trimester months 1 to 3,
and so on. Different things tend to happen in different trimesters,
for example the dreaded morning sickness usually only occurs
during the first trimester, and the biggest increase in ‘bump’
size occurs during the third trimester. (so if, like me, you
love BIG bumps, this is the time to look forward to…)
Will she feel like having sex? Ah well,
that depends partly on the woman and partly on her hormones.
Some women feel that it’s ‘wrong’ to have
sex whilst they are pregnant (indeed, some men think this
as well). Some women think that they look unattractive or
worry about daft things like stretch-marks – talk to
her, let her know that they don’t matter one bit. Sometimes
hormonal changes will make a woman feel less like having sex,
particularly in the first trimester (see above). But a lot
of woman feel very sexy and desirable throughout their pregnancies.
Don’t leave your partner frustrated if she feels this
way!
How is sex different during pregnancy? Her
vagina will get wetter and will do so more readily. This is,
of course, good news, since abundant lubrication makes for
a more comfortable and (in my opinion!) more enjoyable sex
life. Increased blood flow may make her labia and clitoris
more responsive to oral stimulation – so get down there
and exercise your tongue and lips. Of course her breasts and
nipples will enlarge, her nipples will probably get darker
as well, and again increased blood flow may make the veins
in her breasts more prominent. If the aesthetic side of pregnancy
appeals to you, these factors plus her ever-growing belly
should be a huge turn-on for you. Her orgasms will probably
become more intense (again, good news) – watch out for
‘Braxton-Hicks’ contractions from the second trimester
onwards – they’re a bit like the uterus ‘practising’
for full-blown labour contractions, they are very common when
a pregnant woman climaxes and in my experience make her orgasm
incredibly intense. Later in the pregnancy she may start to
lactate, which opens up a whole new world of fun – breast
milk tastes lovely, believe me!
How long can we carry on having sex for?
As long as you like – right up to when her waters break
if you want to. In fact, semen contains a hormone that helps
to start labour, so if she is overdue and fed up with waiting
for something to happen, have a good shag!
And finally… a few fun things to do to. Get some nice
oil or cream and massage her swollen belly (be careful –
some aromatherapy oils are not recommended during pregnancy).
Do the same for her feet (particularly welcome at 8 or 9 months
when she may not be able to see her feet!), ankles and legs.
A bit of pampering makes excellent foreplay…
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