Sex and pregnancy: a woman's view

Author: Rachel

Regarded by many as ‘dirty’ or ‘dangerous’ sex in pregnancy is one of the last taboos in our society. People ask such questions as ‘Can’t I hurt the baby?’ and even as extreme as ‘What if it can feel me?’

The facts about pregnancy are well documented and available, it’s just not common reading material to most would-be-punters. Understandably there are never many pregnant Working Girls around. Whilst I think many would continue to work, as I did, attitudes and comments of those around them prevent them from doing so.

I think the best way to break down the barriers is with facts;

Sex is not dangerous whilst a woman is pregnant. Of course there are exceptions to this rule. Where there is history of miscarriage a doctor will advise her to abstain until she is 14 weeks pregnant, again the same applies if there is recent bleeding.

Sex cannot ‘make the baby arrive early’. Whilst pregnant women are told that semen contains prostaglandin hormones and that sex with their partner could induce labour, the amounts are negligible. Most Working Girls insist on safe sex anyway (and if they don’t you should!), so it’s not really an issue for clients.

The baby cannot feel you. Urban myths tell of the baby reaching down and grabbing your penis. Not true, in fact it’s funny! The baby is contained in the Amniotic Sac, and then the cervix is plugged. So unless a woman is in active labour you will NOT ever feel the baby.

Sex is possible until labour starts. Of course positions have to be adjusted, and much depends on how comfortable the lady is. Gentle and considerate sex is usually possible, and indeed pleasurable. Once a lady’s waters have broken, the amniotic sac is punctured and sex is not possible. This is because infection can be introduced. You cannot puncture this sac during sex.

The biggest problems confronting a woman whilst pregnant are the discomfort issues; of course these are far greater in later pregnancy. Other points to remember are that morning sickness can last for the entire nine months, and can sometimes facilitate a dash to the loo! Pressure on the bladder is increased and the need to pee again can send her rushing to the loo! Breasts are more sensitive, and feel bruised very easily, so it’s worth being gentle.

From a personal viewpoint, I enjoyed sex as much as ever during my pregnancies, all 4 of them! I don’t feel that the increased blood flow to my labia or clitoris made a difference, the hype that surrounds those comments are largely untrue. However, being pregnant didn’t diminish them either. (Luckily for me!)

Working in my pregnancy wasn’t a problem really. I took my doctors advice to ensure a healthy baby of course, but I had no contra-indications to recommend no sex.

I made sure my clients knew what concessions I needed to make, such as my variety of positions, and sometimes, dependant on penis size, the depth of penetration. On the whole I found most men that visited to be kind and gentle with me.

If a woman feels comfortable and happy continuing to work during her pregnancy society has no right to judge her. So long as she ensures her safety, and that of her child then it is up to her to continue working for as long as suits her. The client has every right to his fantasies and desires. If the two can be placed together for a mutually enjoyable meeting then surely that can’t be wrong?